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Normally, people who are connected in some way are said to
be in a relationship. Being in a relationship means putting the needs of your
partner before your own, being committed to them,settling your differences and
considering them when making both small and big decisions. The happiness of
your “other half” is the ultimate goal.
However when the expectations go south, the relationship
becomes unsafe and toxic. It is characterized by insecurities
self-centeredness, dominance and gaining control. Toxic relationships are
common between university students with some leading to painful break ups,
hatred, injuries and even deaths.
But why do students end up
hurting each other?
Most university students find themselves cornered in
relationship where they don’t have an exit strategy. Love triangles, unfaithfulness
or they are just over obsessed with each other. When the truth finally comes to
light, bad outcomes come forthright.
Another thing proving presence of toxic relationships in
universities is gender based violence. A report by African Woman and Child
indicates that domestic violence is most common among university students in
Kenya. Deaths of female students are just a tip of an iceberg of the number of
students suffering in colleges. Read the
full report here....https://rdcu.be/b14E4
Social media has been the peak of bad relationships. Use of
social media platforms has made students more vulnerable especially in
relationships. Recent studies on the use of social media to build relationships
show that most of them end up in violent break-ups or even death.
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Marilyn Monroe said ‘sometimes good things fall apart so
better things fall together’. Yeah it’s true you are so in love but why does it
hurt so badly. Why do you end up bruised, crying or heartbroken? Here are some
tips that might help:
- · Avoid relying on the internet to build relationships. Make your own firm foundation away from the tips or what everybody else is posting or the moments.
- · Don’t
let peer pressure take control. You see everybody’s dating except you so you feel
pressured. Don’t bother, they may be happy in public but privately not. Don’t
rush wait till you ready.
- · Stop
waiting for your partner to change. Perhaps you have tried to reason with
him/her but no change is showing. Just let them be, change comes from within
and it cannot be forced.
- · Learn
to let go. If your partner is bringing more harm either physically or
emotionally, let them go. Quit the relationship and realize you deserve better.
Know your worth altogether…
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